I came up with an idea a couple of weeks ago to liven up the humdrum life of living together with my fiancee. You know how it goes. You come home from work, help the kids with homework, make dinner, clean up, watch TV, social network, then go to bed. And then every other weekend, when we’re kid-free because the boys are at their dad’s, we order the same pizza/chinese and watch TV. Blah, blah, blah. Sure we could go to a nice restaurant or to the movies, but we’re always so wishy washy about what to do. So I came up with an idea that sparked life and excitement into a – don’t get me wrong- “pleasantly” stable relationship. I call it Mystery Date Night.
Anyone can do this as long as you have a babysitter set up a couple of times a month. Friday nights work best for us, but you could also do Saturday night, or even an afternoon date. Here’s what you do. On a sheet of paper write down about 20-30 date ideas vertically from top to bottom. Restaurants, bowling, and movies are just some examples. Be sure to take into consideration weather conditions (i.e., you may want to leave off mini-golf in the winter;)) The majority of our dates happen to be retaurants because we’re both fatties and love our food. Everything from $30 a plate places to the local pizza place and Chinese take-out. We chose to leave movies off because my fiancee refuses to pay the outrageous prices they charge for popcorn. And yes, he cannot watch a movie without eating popcorn…even in bed. This can be proven by the tiny pieces of popcorn that embed themselves into my back while I sleep. Argh!
So once you have a list of dates (the good, the excellent, and the mediocre), you cut them out in strips, fold them up really tiny, and place them in a box or container with a lid. A half hour before your date, shake up the box, and draw out a date. This gives you enough time to dress appropriately. You may wonder why I include mediocre dates. It’s beause it increases the excitement of the unknown. Our very first mystery date was the night before Valentine’s Day. We were excited all week long for this special date. When it came time to pull it, we opened the paper with bated breath…then burst out laughing. We’d pulled Pizza Nook. Yes. We were going to Pizza Nook for our Valentine’s dinner. Of course, we were tempted to put it back and pull another, but we decided to stick with it as part of the charm of mystery date night. We were surrounded by kids and TVs playing kids’ movies, but we made the most of it and ended up having a great time. I had the largest peanut butter cup cookie I’d ever seen in my life. It was the size of a small dinner plate. Erm, and yes I ate the entire thing. Every last gooey, peanut-buttery bite.
Last night, we chose another local restaurant that sported red and white checked tablecloths, mood lighting, and played Italian music. It was all very romantic, except for the ogre (as my fiancee dubbed him) bussing tables. He’d linger near your table, waiting for you to finish a plate, then eat the food off it on his way back to the kitchen. Ick. One of my steak fries had landed on the floor and I’d placed it back on the corner of my plate. I wonder if he ate that one, too?
As you can see, mystery date night has infused some excitement into our relationship. Between the anticipation in the days leading up to it, and the new memories we’ve created, it’s brought us even closer. I encourage you to create your own mystery date night, and see what it can do for you!